Some of the discussions that I have with my clients have a very general theme, that is, it's a discussion I have with lots of different clients. There are several women that come to me for a session and through our conversations it becomes very clear to me that they are at the bottom of a very large pile, sometimes their position is self imposed! Busy running around making sure that their children get to all their extra curricular activities, ensuring that their nutritional needs are carefully thought through a healthy balanced diet, that they have a school/life balance and are generally happy. Husbands and partners get slightly less attention but room is made without question that they play golf/rugby/have a boy's night out. In fact, often, where there are children, they don't even have to check who will look after the children...they can just go out, because that is what they do on a Thursday night. There sometimes isn't even a discussion about childcare!
Why is it then that women find it so difficult to make time for themselves? When asked, it's always the same kinds of responses...and it always involves the needs of the children, the partner or the parents even. So I have decided that the best way to change this habit of neglect, working on the premise that it takes 21 days to change a habit, that everyday, the goal is to make an appointment with yourself. Start off with 15 minutes, if that is all you can manage. Whether you take this at lunchtime, first thing in the morning before everyone wakes up or in the evening...its your time. It is unquestionably your time. You and all those around you, by day 21, will become used to the idea that you are worthy of your self-appointment time.
Why is it important to make space for ourselves? Because aside from anything else, when we don't do this, we are saying we are unimportant and we are teaching those around us the concept of inequality. We are saying that some people in the family/society are more important than others. Teaching those around us that we are all important is a good life skill for our children and for society as a whole. The actual personal benefits of doing this are so we are able to replenish, rejuvenate and process our thoughts enabling us to make sure that we can be intuitive to our needs. This in turn means that we feel better about ourselves, we are more likely to focus on eating well and our general sense of well being will improve. My favourite me time activities are swimming, reading and walking. So whatever it is that makes you feel more centred, book it in. Book an appointment with yourself...go on.
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